So what is a Memory Box?
"A keepsake box or memory box,
typically made from wood, is used for storing mementos of a special
time, event or person. They are often created or purchased to mark
life's major events like a christening, wedding, birthday or First Holy Communion.
They may also be given for sad occasions of bereavement, such as the stillbirth of a child, when a keepsake/memory box helps with the grieving process. This sort of a keepsake box may be personalised with a person's name, design or picture." Wikipedia
Do we get together to pack memory boxes? No, we don't. Due to the relatively small numbers needed if we packed lots of boxes space would have to be found to store them and also they might not be used for some time. We supply the empty boxes and contents and the health staff choose what to put in according to size of the baby.
Each Memory Box is filled with:-
- two teddies (one for Mum & Dad, one to stay with baby)
- an inkless hand/footprint kit (using a reactive paper and special wipe
so no messy inkpad)
- a small box to keep precious items in
- 3D casting of hands and feet where possible
- notebook and pen for important information, memories or thoughts
- books on grief and loss
- a children's book
- ceramic remembering hearts
- 'Heart in "Their Hand" keyring
- a curl box
- a sympathy card and letter from us including a list of ‘essential photos to take’ and
may wish to do’ (available in English, Portuguese and Polish)
- support information
- a beautiful hand crafted baby book that could also be used as a condolence book or journal
addition, we have donated a dedicated digital camera for the
Maternity Unit 'Family Room', with a supply of memory cards for
parents to use and take home.
The books are:-
'Saying Goodbye' by Zoe Clark-Coates
Losing a baby, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death, leaves so many parents lost in grief and full of unanswered questions. Zoe Clark-Coates, and her husband Andy, have personally faced the loss of five babies, now share their story.
This book shares their loss and alongside this are 90 days of daily support for those who are grieving, offering comfort and hope during the difficult days, weeks and months.
This book was launched during Baby Loss Awareness Week in October 2017 and quickly become an Amazon bestseller.
'In The Stars'
A beautiful story book aimed at younger children to help explore issues and questions when a baby dies. This may be particularly helpful for siblings, cousins and friends and is a beautifully illustrated account of two young children talking about what might have happened to a baby called Kitty. It provides an opportunity to explore questions and grief gently and safely.
'These Precious Little People' is a book that has been written for families to use with children affected by the death of a baby during pregnancy or soon after birth.
The focus is usually on the bereaved parents when a baby dies, but there are very often children who will have been aware of the pregnancy and will have to be told the news that the baby has died. Understandably, it is often our instinct to protect children from the harsh realities of babies dying, but unfortunately if the worst happens to us, or someone we are close to, it is impossible to avoid or skirt around the topic. This book is intended to be a framework from which to then have conversations where the circumstances specific to each baby can be explained more fully if desired.